Also, realize that it takes two to tango and that finding someone better is not necessarily a cure-all, as we will likely have issues in future relationships.
Finally, recognize how the particular challenges of your marriage are growth opportunities for you and your spouse, and that there are ways for you to transform this conflict into connection.
(Of course, this does not apply to abusive relationships.) 2) Seal your exits.
You wouldn't normally think that a divorced man would give good advice on being a husband, but this man has been through enough hardship to know what is worth fighting for: MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD: Obviously, Iâm not a relationship expert. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance.Julie, 50, from Denver, thought she'd be able to handle her divorce."I'm a strong person, I own my own business and I'm a professional speaker," she says.But thereâs something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done differentâ¦ After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, hereâs the advice I wish I would have had... Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Youâre not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today.Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged.Needless to say, an abusive relationship is one where there is no trust.