There is a single English woman working at the desk outside my husband's office who is in her mid-30s.
She's constantly complaining that it's very hard to find a date, even though she's slim and attractive and has a nice personality.
The British side is written by London-based e Harmony Editor Julia Filsell, and the American side by Pasadena-based e Harmony Content Director, Grant Langston. It seems to be an issue that neatly divides daters.
For some it feels unnatural and creepy, for others it’s the only sensible way to proceed.
Versus going to bars, scoping out prey, meeting for drinks then getting passive-aggressive emails. I believe you happened upon one very specific type of NY girl at this dinner Birds of a feather, darling.
Here, Americans like to stay with the classic approach.
The usual route is to ask someone out for a cup of coffee or a drink or even dinner.
I’ll call them – Cool Logicians and Heartfelt Believers. They have read the experts and considered the research. Cool Logicians are also aware that dating more than one person at a time can raise your perceived value.
They know that meeting a great person often means you have to meet lots of people. It can make you seem more in demand and like a “catch.” Of course, it can also make you seem like a low-down dirty dog.
(One of her theories is that there are too many gay men living in the large cities! I also think that some women aim rather high/a bit picky and want to date an investment banker or doctor rather than a fireman or policeman....